1. “You can’t ask me to do something like this…” – You should never say the word can’t. We don’t even allow our children to say “can’t”. We encourage them to say, “I am going to need some assistance in getting this done.” Romans 12:3 says “ For I say, through the grace given to me, to everyone who is among you, not to think of himself more highly than he out to think, but to think soberly, as God has dealt to each one a measure of faith.” If you try using your faith, you can do it—whatever they may ask of you.
2. “It’s not my fault or It’s not my problem” –You must take ownership of any mistake or issue that may or even may not be your responsibility. By taking ownership, you free your management to help you focus on the solution. It does not matter whose problem it is, if you provide the solution you will look like a winner! You want to foster a reputation of being a problem solver, not a complainer. Try to be like the psalmist who says “I set plainspoken wisdom before you, my heart-seasoned understandings of life. I fine-tuned my ear to the sayings of the wise, I solve life's riddle with the help of a harp.” Psalm 49:3-4 (The Message) Use what you have to solve the problem.
3. “This is unfair.” – When it seems like work is unevenly distributed or that you are being treated unfairly, remember life is not fair. God sees everything you do and according to Psalm 19:18 (NKJV) “The wicked man does deceptive work, But he who sows righteousness will have a sure reward.” Your reward will come because you have done what is right, even though others around you are just going through the motions.
4. “Just can’t seem to get to get along with….” –You must work successfully with everyone on the team. Teamwork is a part of work. Ask God for wisdom on how to deal with the difficult people on you team. Psalm 34:14 says “Turn away from evil and do good. Search for peace, and work to maintain it.” (NLT)
5.“Afraid to do it.” – Don’t be afraid of success. Nobody will blame you if you try to solve a problem that has risk associated with it. Everything has a certain degree of risk. Ask God to give you wisdom for the situation and he will give you the confidence you need to make the necessary decisions. 2 Timothy 1:7 says “For God has not given us a spirit of fear, but of power and of love and of a sound mind.”(NIV)
These phrases come from the book “How to Say It at Work” by Jack Griffin. As always, I added my own commentary.
Can you give me more examples of phrases to avoid?